For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ.
The fear of rejection can cause us to put on a calm, collected exterior when internally we harbor fear and personal relationships are not deep or satisfying as a result. Some of us either accept everything requested of us or withdrawal merely to gain or keep that perceived approval. Hostility or deep rooted fears can cause nervous disorders to develop.
This rejection we feel will be reflected upon how much we place our self-worth in what others say or think of us or if its rooted in our relationship with God and what He says of us. Depending on others brings bondage while freedom and joy come from Christ and trusting in His love and acceptance of us despite our performance.
Q. Describe a time when someone you know withheld approval through praise, sarcasm, silence or other means to manipulate you into doing what he/she wanted you to do. Did they succeed?
A. Yes, I can remember dating my ex girlfriend who would call me up when I spent time with the guys and would pout and whine asking me to come over to be with her. She was insecure with who she was and sadly so was I. I would listen to her cries of sadness then drop what I was doing to go be with her. She also would tell me about how she had to spend her money on bills or whatever then asked me to purchase something for her such as clothing. Again, I let her overstep my personal boundaries in this regard. I do not think highly of these events looking back on them but I know now that I do not have to dwell on the past, but can press forward to forget these events.
Lord God help me to lean on you and not in myself when I think of how others have treated me a certain way and how I’ve allowed that to dictate choices that I’ve made. Let me be content with friendships and not run from fellowship, but to earnestly make time to invest into the lives of others.
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